You're a remarkably independent woman. You pretty much do what you want when you want to do it. You pride yourself on your financial autonomy, your emotional self-sufficiency and your drive. So what's a man supposed to bring to your life — other than the obvious? That's the question you'll be asking yourself this week when the Venus/Uranus trine in fire stirs up all of that restive energy. You may think you know what you want in a mate, but the stars show that you haven't the faintest clue. Thankfully they'll be filling in the blanks over the next few weeks.
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Just because he says he wants to take a break doesn't mean he's calling it quits. Lovers pick up on all kinds of signals — the ones sent and the ones we don't think we're broadcasting. Instead of warming up for another verse of the rejection blues, you might take this time that Jupiter is retrograde to ask yourself why you're relieved. Did he suspect your feelings weren't simpatico? Or was he voicing something you couldn't? Whether this provides you with an out or a compelling reason to stay depends on you. Like it or not, the next move is yours.
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News through the grapevine that he's been asking after you (or maybe it's an unexpected friend request?) makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. You really did have fun together even if your relationship didn't work out. And this is the difficulty with modern communication. Do you just leave well enough alone or do you follow up? Well, it's not every day when retrograde Mercury forms a trine to retrograde Jupiter in Mercury's own sign. Astrology has a funny way of holding space until the stars align and your horoscope this week shows that he's willing if you're able.
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There are times when we have to give people their space and this is one of them. The sun/Mercury conjunction on Jan. 14 shows that a lover or spouse is retreating into himself. He's struggling with pressing concerns and they're taking up a lot of time and energy. You'll want to help but your advice would only fall on deaf ears. Trust that if he wants support then he'll ask for it. Give him lots of latitude and he'll re-emerge on Jan. 26. Meanwhile you might want to catch up with friends who have been wondering where you've been lately.
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What do you do when the chemistry's right, but the person's all wrong? That's the dilemma you'll face when Venus trines Uranus on Jan. 12. Now the easy thing to do would be to throw him back in the water and cast your line again. However, Uranus has a way of upsetting our expectations and broadening our horizons. Yes, his politics will be questionable, his manners brusque, and his income level has a lot to be desired but there's something about him that you just can't shake. You might want to take a chance on love and go against type.
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Virgos don't mate easily. Astrology books say it's because you're a perfectionist and people fail to live up to your expectations. Actually your search for the perfect mate is a stalling tactic aimed at keeping men at arm's length. You're afraid that if you met the right guy, then you'd fall in thrall to him and lose yourself in the process. Virgos are always afraid of losing their autonomy, but that's more about you trusting yourself than it is about him. Thankfully you've been through enough dry runs that you're at a point where you can commit without hesitation.
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Sometimes it's when you're on the verge of losing someone that you realize you had feelings all along. This is what will be happening this week when Venus trines Uranus and then squares retrograde Jupiter. It looks like you've finally come to your senses and are ready to tell him what he's been longing to hear. Unfortunately it won't be that easy because it could also be argued that the only reason you're fighting for him is so that nobody else gets him but you. An unflattering thought, but it's one worth considering before you do something you might regret.
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You need to lean in to your Venus. This isn't easy for someone who was born under Mars, the planet of "that's-what-I-want-and-I'm-going-to-get-it." In other words you're used to hot pursuits and not being hotly pursued. This week's Venus/Jupiter square shows a complete cosmic role reversal and you could suddenly find yourself the object of competitors' affections. Competitors? Yes, because it looks like there's more than one fellow hoping to make a love connection with you. Try your best to enjoy the attention. Dating different guys at the same time isn't your style, but it could grow on you given time.
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Careful. The Venus/Uranus trine on Jan. 12 followed by a Venus/Jupiter square on Jan. 17 will stir up all of your "I could do better" tendencies. This may be the case, but you could also be overreaching your grasp. It depends on whether or not you have a realistic appraisal of your relationship. This isn't always easy to judge (even in the best of times) but it usually gets down to companionship. Romance, sex and excitement will come and go, but true companionship is always there. Think twice before walking out on something you may never be able to replace.
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Not all great loves of your life are romantic. Some of them may be friendships, intellectual affairs or spiritual bonds. This association might last a day or be the sort of connection that deepens over time. In any case the Venus/Jupiter square on Jan. 17 brings home that point when this person reappears at a time when you can really use support and solace. You may not be able to escape or avert the personal crisis you face, but knowing that there's someone in your life who truly gets what you're going through will help to lessen the pain.
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Sometimes people can be surprised by how seriously you take your friendships. You're not possessive or territorial, but you do expect to be a priority. You like to get together on a regular basis, will drop anything to help out, and insist on an honesty and fidelity that others often associate with romantic partners. It's a lot of work maintaining these ties and anyone who gets involved with you will have to make room for your friends. The end result is that you have an extraordinary spectrum of personalities in your life — each as unique and irreplaceable as the other.
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If he's not the right one for you, then why is he still here? That's the question you'll be asking yourself when retrograde Mercury trines retrograde Jupiter on Jan. 14. Now that might be too many retrogrades going on at once, but retrogrades have a certain telling quality if you're willing to examine life in reverse. This is when they reveal certain incongruities like: Why do you keep turning to someone you say you don't want to be with? This might be a good time to wake up and smell the coffee before you discover one day that he's gone.